How to build Self Esteem and stay Confident

Self Esteem and Confidence are two major things you need to have to assess and achieve your goals. Otherwise, it is much difficult to accurately access what you want your goals to be, leave alone achieving them.

Your surroundings are very important as you handle people with different behavior. Consider the following points also, so that you benefit whenever you feel low.

1. Negative Work Environment

If your work environment has “dog eat dog” theory people where everyone is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. You may find you are working harder and harder for less and less return.

Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem. Find ways to manage your work within the normal working day at least 90% of the time. If you have to compete with others, compete on your own terms. Power games or negative behavior will only make you feel badly about yourself.

2Other People’s Behavior

Gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, controllers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers … all these negative behaviors in others will damage your self esteem, as well as to your self development program. But remember, it is not the person that is the problem: it is their behavior.

3Changing Environment

You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. They test our flexibility, adaptability and alter the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for a while and often cause stress, but when we look back we will see that change is often the catalyst or cause of self development.

4Past Experience

It’s okay to cry when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear by constantly thinking of the bad things that have happened to you or others in the past. It’s easy to wreck a relationship by bringing with you the issues you had in your last relationship, and expecting your new partner to be like your previous one. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson, and move on.

5Negative World View

Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.

6Determination Theory

The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits, your upbringing, and your current environment such as your friends, your work situation, the economy and even the climate of the country that you live in.

Do not make the mistake of thinking that your genetics or upbringing will determine how your life goes. You have your own identity. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes.

When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self esteem?

Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build self esteem and set you on the path to positive self development.